Happily-ever-afters ends in marriage…
Then starts the fights and the flying pans…
When I wrote the above lines, I had this itch to throw a pan at someone. (Hint: That someone is my better half). It is true that fight happens… Fights are an integral part of life.
Fighting with your spouse makes life interesting and there is no way to by-pass it. Be it a small misunderstanding or a full—blown argument, it is destined to happen – the fight… If you’ve never fought with your spouse, well, it will happen soon (Hey! Don’t give me that face. I am just stating the fact!).
Even if you are irrecoverably in love, you will still hate it when he does something to blow your fuse. Intentional or unintentional. (My hubby does things to bother me, all too aware that I will be bothered… that guy is freaking childish!)
So? Can we avoid these fights and stay cordial always? Maybe… if you slug through life with a formal hello and hi. But if you are on the team and are ploughing through the rough-patches of life together, you will fight. That is as true as the next morning sunrise.
Is there a way to avoid fighting? Avoid those small clashes, tears and hurts? Okay… I don’t have a freaking idea. My husband and I fought as often than not and he absolutely irritates me, and at times I just want to hit him with a pan – HARD (sorry, sweet, but it is true 🙂 ).
Hello… we are human. We will get irritated at one point or the other. You are supposed to get irritated, mad, and upset. However, is it good to let those fights ultimately blow you apart?
How many divorces start in a simple fight about salt-less food? Many!!!
Don’t let your marriage tumble down and be a part of another statistics.
Fight hard for making through the marriage. Don’t let small crackers become the bomb, which will ultimately blows your marriage apart. And remember only one thing: A kiss on the forehead.
What is so special about it?
Because… a kiss on the forehead, it is emotional and it will be the manifestation of love. It is gentle, meaningful and thoughtful. Purely poetic. Like a gentle thud of raindrops. Kisses on the forehead are melodic and unadulterated. It says that they care for you… they adore you and respect you and love you and will do everything to make you happy.
Unlike a French kiss, a kiss on your forehead is a clear (and sincere) expression of promise and love. Nothing excessively physical is spurred on by kisses on the forehead. So… it means, they just have to express ‘I love you and care for you a lot.’ at that moment.
This little, sometimes-ignored action speaks louder than the more elaborate gestures…
Have you felt that indescribable feeling when someone –be it your mother, father or hubby, or a friend – kissed you in the forehead. The feeling that they will take care of you, even if you don’t want them to… The feeling of ecstasy and relief and belonging… The feeling that everything is better, now… These feelings sprout from a single kiss on the forehead. It is better than all the other kisses.
And now… back to the fight… to end the fight that continues on and on, without a full-stop.
You are angry that day. Spitting mad. And you didn’t want to talk to him. He didn’t want to cause the blast by bringing it all back.
And there he stands, ready to go off to work. Then he leans in, hesitant. Plants a single kiss on your forehead and goes off to work.
I know… you will forgive him. Without words… and you will keep thinking about the kiss.
Or… you can just lean in. Plant a kiss. And he will say sorry for all that he has ever done or didn’t even do ;).
It is as easy as ABC. So why not…
Next time, when you are angry with your husband… plant a kiss.
Next time, when your husband is angry with you… plant a kiss.
And see the magic…