ADHD – What is His Normal?
We all have complains about our kids. They break toys, they don’t sit and do homework.
But what we don’t know is… There is a kid out there who can not sit and do homework, who does things impulsively because he lacks the control button. And suddenly your complaints are moot, your complaints start to sound like whining and ungrateful.
LIFE IS FUNNY LIKE THAT.
The biggest problem of your life might be someone else’s everyday life…
What is ADHD…
Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a brain disorder marked by an ongoing pattern of inattention and/or hyperactivity-impulsivity that interferes with functioning or development.
Read more on this link.
Sometimes you notice a kid running about and you are angry… But what you may not know is that he has no idea that he is barrelling into someone, that this collision may result in people getting hurt. What his brain knows is that he is running. Just that. It is unintentional. His/her brain is wired differently than yours. It doesn’t mean he/she is a bad kid. It just means they are different than you. It ONLY means they are different. It doesn’t mean they are NOT NORMAL. They are their own kind of normal.
You may look at some kid and wonder, “God, didn’t his Mom teach him anything?”
Of course, she did. She did it a thousand time more than you did. She did it with the care and attention even you may lack.
He is normal in his own way. And his normal is all about what you don’t think as normal. Your normal may not concede with his, but don’t hurt him by pointing it out loud to him.
Even if you want to say the baddest thing or maybe as simple as call him stupid, WAIT. Please, don’t. He is not build to take it easy as others do.
Yes, of course, you can ask him to slow down. You can ever, gently, say how running like this might cause him wounds, and to others. But don’t be harsh. Don’t be rude. Don’t hurt his self-esteem with just a word. He doesn’t deserve that.
He is already carrying a big load that a kid doesn’t deserve to carry. Be considerate.
Your single world can be his motivation or his downfall. That one word of yours will be life changing. Use it well…